Self control and the Preparation of the Adult

As I've been taking my Spring Break as an extended time of contemplation, I wanted to focus in on one aspect of Montessori pedagogy that I continue to strive towards, namely the preparation of the Adult. In truth, Montessori educators are often very keen to setting up their classrooms, based on the previous experiences they've had with children, and taking into the consideration the specific children that are in their care. It's a great gift that so many of the shelves in my classroom are on wheels since, inevitably, there will be certain ideas about what I "know" children need that will manifest quite differently in the children in front of me showing the need to pivot in adjusting the space. But I wonder how much we do that when it comes to our very presence in the space?

I remember having a teacher come to observe in my classroom as a substitute. She was constantly moving back and forth, trying to get a better view of what was happening in every area of the room. On occasion she would interact with a few of the children, but generally she would "put out fires", seeking to maintain a space where the children are having minimal conflict. I definitely know the feeling. Like parents, teachers can often feel like the way the children act is always a direct reflection of the quality of teaching they've received (which only has hints of truth in it).

I told her later what I was also taught. When we rush to deal with an altercation in the children's house, we cannot see the effect that it has on the classroom behind us. I find now that, when I have the inclination to rush in and "support" a conflict, it is often born out of anxiety. When I feel that in my body these days, I tend to sit down, or perhaps even work with one of the materials. Usually the situation resolves itself.

The Bible talks about this in terms of having self control (Galatians 5:22-23). It is not merely a guarding of what you say and do, but even in the thoughts that come to your mind. So by definition it is not just a practice but requires a fundamental shift in how we operate in the world.I certainly haven't made it. Though I like to think that I am a bit better at watching and waiting than I was when I first started teaching. The inevitable result is that I am communicating to the children that they have the ability to handle their own problems...though help is never too far away.

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